Red flags in gay dating you should not ignore

Behaviours we normalise out of habit

• Messages only late at night or when the other person is bored.
• Contemptuous comments about other bodies, races or lifestyles.
• Insistence on skipping any talk about protection or sexual health.

How to respond when you see a red flag

You do not have to become their therapist or educate them. A short answer is enough: “This is not aligned with what I am looking for,” and leaving the interaction. Every time you honour your boundaries, you train your system to choose the next connection better.